It's hard enough to watch the news and see all these innocent people, children in its majority dying because of archaic religious and political agendas, but now in our own land, infanticide has become a form of lousy parents to reclaim their so called freedom. From the man that left his toddler roast to death in his car, to the woman who pushes her baby onto a NYC subway platform, (can't think of a most dangerous place for a child to be on his own), to the equally out of shape, overweight parents that were forcing their child to do 100 push ups over and over again in a sadistic fashion while keeping him tied up in their basement. When I see or read this all I can say is WTF America? Like really, WTF is wrong with you? In my humble opinion, I think people really need to soul search and come to a firm decision when it comes to parenting and bearing a child. Just because you have good productive ovaries and an awesome sperm count doesn't mean the job is for you. Because that's what parenting is, a full time, lifelong job, a penniless job but if done right, the most rewarding of all tasks in the world. So having said that, the position can definitely not be filled by "punks or wimps", but unfortunately many of these punks and wimps mistakenly, accidentally or romantically think they can. I heard someone once say, "well people who are thinking in becoming parents should first buy a puppy and see how it works out and if they can't handle the care the doggy entails then maybe they should reconsider their parenting options"..well, I think even though at some level of nurturing and responsibility a puppy can be a good introduction to what the parenting world requires I still think caring for a pet is a bad analogy for parenting. You see, a pet can be given away easily or put up for adoption if you have had enough of it, a pet can stay with either party once there's a breakup and the other party is not legally mandated to support the pet, if the pet gets too ill and you decide to euthanize it no one is gonna look at you as a baby killer but instead you will get the full support of a network of pet owners who at some point had to do the same with their beloved pet. Nope people..parenting is not for EVERYONE!
In a country where we are still debating and fighting over pro choice options where, a group of right wingers will tell you don't you dare end a pregnancy cause you will be going straight to hell but once you do have the baby the same group will turn around and tell you, well now you take care of that bastard you slut, is continuing to perpetuate a state of unwanted, accidentally conceived babies who unfortunately will be doomed or destined to a life of abuse, neglect and as we see nowadays murder.Lets take the first couple with the dying baby in the car, I personally believe and my innate FBI profiler also known to man as my sixth sense feeling is that both parents were equally involved in this tragic and horrific death. Here's an all American wholesome looking couple, church going, apparently good parents to the community, who no doubt had a great level of dysfunction going on behind doors, the guy is sexting women from different sites and the wife is standing by his side even during the outrageous circumstances of the death of her child. I know women, myself included who will be ready to snap someones head off if they forgot the milk in the car and caused it to go bad much less a baby to die. But this upstanding, very religious couple felt that this was a viable way out, not perhaps talking to a priest, or pastor, or therapist or even a kind hearted stranger on the street about the pressures of parenting that obviously they couldn't sustain and be possibly chastised by society for, it was easier for them as religious faithful to break one of the 10 commandments, one of the main ones I must say and become murders rather than be seen or themselves accept that they were and now forever will be the worst parents that ever lived. And yeah, I know what you're thinking, lets not blame it on society or the government, these people were just evil, twisted and demented and I agree with you all on that too, but I also feel that people need to learn and be told by their societies, their governments and most importantly their conscious that perhaps parenting is not for them, and if they do accidentally or intentionally venture that road that they can feel free to say "I suck at this and I need help". Family and friends should be helping out, the saying its takes a village to raise a child is not a hollow one. If you see a family member or friend who is or looks distress over their life specially if there's children involved just don't turn a blind eye and say "oh well, no one told her or him to have kids" see how you if anything can help. We need as a society to start making consciousness and practical decisions when it comes to parenting. Just because you can doesn't mean you should. Life is ironic, people that shouldn't even have custody of the mice in their buildings can procreate as fast and as much as lets say..mice! And then you have people who really want and can financially and emotionally afford to be parents can't. But that is life and the world for you, on the meantime I believe we should educate our young generations that becoming parents is not easy and its not mandated if your heart doesn't feel the need, that it doesn't make you a bad or a lesser person but someone in control of their future and life. Because in the end even if biology or the Bible (ironically this is the one text both science and religion agree on) says we are meant to "live, multiply and die" its better to make a sound decision to "live, love and not kill".
In a country where we are still debating and fighting over pro choice options where, a group of right wingers will tell you don't you dare end a pregnancy cause you will be going straight to hell but once you do have the baby the same group will turn around and tell you, well now you take care of that bastard you slut, is continuing to perpetuate a state of unwanted, accidentally conceived babies who unfortunately will be doomed or destined to a life of abuse, neglect and as we see nowadays murder.Lets take the first couple with the dying baby in the car, I personally believe and my innate FBI profiler also known to man as my sixth sense feeling is that both parents were equally involved in this tragic and horrific death. Here's an all American wholesome looking couple, church going, apparently good parents to the community, who no doubt had a great level of dysfunction going on behind doors, the guy is sexting women from different sites and the wife is standing by his side even during the outrageous circumstances of the death of her child. I know women, myself included who will be ready to snap someones head off if they forgot the milk in the car and caused it to go bad much less a baby to die. But this upstanding, very religious couple felt that this was a viable way out, not perhaps talking to a priest, or pastor, or therapist or even a kind hearted stranger on the street about the pressures of parenting that obviously they couldn't sustain and be possibly chastised by society for, it was easier for them as religious faithful to break one of the 10 commandments, one of the main ones I must say and become murders rather than be seen or themselves accept that they were and now forever will be the worst parents that ever lived. And yeah, I know what you're thinking, lets not blame it on society or the government, these people were just evil, twisted and demented and I agree with you all on that too, but I also feel that people need to learn and be told by their societies, their governments and most importantly their conscious that perhaps parenting is not for them, and if they do accidentally or intentionally venture that road that they can feel free to say "I suck at this and I need help". Family and friends should be helping out, the saying its takes a village to raise a child is not a hollow one. If you see a family member or friend who is or looks distress over their life specially if there's children involved just don't turn a blind eye and say "oh well, no one told her or him to have kids" see how you if anything can help. We need as a society to start making consciousness and practical decisions when it comes to parenting. Just because you can doesn't mean you should. Life is ironic, people that shouldn't even have custody of the mice in their buildings can procreate as fast and as much as lets say..mice! And then you have people who really want and can financially and emotionally afford to be parents can't. But that is life and the world for you, on the meantime I believe we should educate our young generations that becoming parents is not easy and its not mandated if your heart doesn't feel the need, that it doesn't make you a bad or a lesser person but someone in control of their future and life. Because in the end even if biology or the Bible (ironically this is the one text both science and religion agree on) says we are meant to "live, multiply and die" its better to make a sound decision to "live, love and not kill".
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